Availability: How can I reach Ms Pamela?

Empress Pamela — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 15:02:39 +0000

Today and Wednesday I will take FemDom phone sex calls between 7pm and Midnight eastern time. I am hearing from some clients that my cutting off at 9pm is a bit too early for them, so hopefully you will make this change in my schedule worth my time. If so, I’ll make it a regular thing

Yahoo IM / Kink Chat, etc

When I’m slated to take calls, if I’m not in a Fem Dom phone sex session, I can often be found logged in to the Kink Chatline at CommunityKink.com. When I am taking calls I am always logged in to Yahoo IM — however, it is important to note that I do not respond to IMs when I am in a session (which is usually 50% of the time), and that chatting, while fun and enjoyable, is a low priority except when discussing the particulars of an upcoming session or when a client has specifically paid for my undivided attention in chat via sexytexting.com. I know that in addition to talking to me, you like reading my blog entries and listening to my audio clips. But making all of these things happen takes time, so, my little attention whores, you’re just going to have to be patient and wait for me to answer your IMs and emails, or bite the bullet and call me at (800) 601-6975 (and even sometimes then you’ll have to be patient ).

I am a member of an all-women network of phone sex Mistresses and phone sex sites, the primary of which is VoxErotic. Vox Erotic hosts an internet radio station called Cock Radio. Here is the schedule of shows. I often listen to it throughout the day, and hope to get my own show going there some time soon.

Empress Pamela * (800) 601-6975 * Empress.Pamela@yahoo.com

So you think you want to be a submissive: FemDom Pamela talks shop with a cop

Empress Pamela — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 12:38:46 +0000

Cop: hello Empress, how are you ?

Empress: I am well. And you?

Cop: im feeling a bit delicate right now.. felt like i needed to talk to someone

Empress: I’d be happy to listen, Cop. What’s going on ?

Cop: im new to this. ive started to feel submissive recently… just recently…not sure why

Empress: Submissive feelings like yours have a couple of sources.

Empress: Sometimes they are a response to helplessness or feelings of helplessness. Sometimes they are a response to being uncomfortable with some aspect of their personal power. This is of course speaking from my experience. I am not a councilor or social worker. I am, however, a lifestyle Domme.

Cop: full time domme ?

Empress: Not necessarily full-time so much as…. being a dominant permiates most aspects of my life and lifestyle. It is who I AM, rather than what I DO. If that makes sense?

Cop: yes it does

Empress: Rather like being a cop, I suspect.

Cop: ive had women before wanting to control me, cos im a cop and they find it powerful… now im finding it hard to resist that

Empress I sometimes refer to human beings as ‘sheeple’ not in a demeaning way, but so as to demonstrate something. Humans are a herd or pack animal, like sheep or wolves.

Empress: Greater than 90% of the individuals in herd/pack species are submissive. It is genetically programmed for species survival.

Cop: for men ?

Empress: (I have a degree in molecular genetics) Men it is 90%. Women it is 95% One in 10 men are born to lead. Few ever actually fulfill that. With women, it is more like one in 20.

Cop: so you are quite unique

Empress: It is why dominant females are in high demand. That and the fact that I have a 160 IQ and a winning smile

Cop: you talk a lot of sense

Empress: I also have insomnia

Cop: lol

Empress: My mind sometimes will NOT turn off. So anyway, the point of this is….It is natural for you to feel like turning over your power to someone else for a change.

Cop: but i feel like doing this permanaently

Empress: *nod*

Cop: you are taking control of me now. i feel it

Empress: Has something happened recently that…. hmm… put you in a position of power over others that you were not comfortable with (consciously or not) ?

Cop: yes i think it has, like a build up of pressure

Empress: May I speak my mind and ask that you not take offense if I word things in a way that is unintentionally offensive?

Cop: of course

Empress: I am familiar with cops and their tendancies to implode. The pressure makes them abusive of themselves and often others. Alcohol, drugs, domestic violence, abuses of power. It is statistically significant. If you want to prevent an implosion, then D/s is probably a VERY good outlet for you, especially submission.

Empress: Sometimes as a cop you feel compelled to do things that… you really don’t want to do, deep down. It makes yours a self-hating bunch of isolationist (eventual) bastards Rather than admit they are uncomfortable with the constant pressure of exercise of power and seek productive relief from it, they become destructive towards themselves or others.

Empress: A good pro-Domme could probably meet your needs for either surrender, or flagellation, without the destructive overtones.

Cop: like you ?

Empress: I am thinking you would benefit from face-to-face sessions with a FemDom more so than fantasy-phone ones. Though I suppose it is better than the alternatives.

Cop: you couldn’t control me this way ?

Empress: When you feel like succumbing to a woman, what things do you imagine occuring.

Cop: kneeling before her, kissing her feet, obeying her orders, being collared

Empress: Do you imagine her giving you pain?

Cop: yes. teasing me. feminisation too

Empress: At some point, my experience and intuition tells me, you are going to need pain. You will crave punishment, almost as a form of penance with the reward being absolution. If that is the case, you enter a realm beyond the erotic humiliation of phone FemDoms. You need a pro-Dom with a paddle or flogger

Cop: i see

Empress: Do you? I am good to cut your baby teeth on. But when the time comes when you *need* pain … go see a pro. Please. Don’t ask it of a GF or spouse. Most women are not equipped to handle pain-giving. They are designed to be pain-bearers. And most women are not equipped to handle the rage some men feel as a result of pain.

Cop: can i call you Mistress as a form of respect for you please ?

Empress: Certainly.

Cop: do you feel i need ownership ?

Empress: I do not know you well enough to say. I think that you should seriously explore D/s as a theraputic release. Whether it leads to emotional attachments and ownership is something different and unpredictable.

Cop: i just feel it strongly.. the need for someone to tell me what to do

Empress: I understand that compulsion. There are 20 of you for every one of me. I thrive on the energy exchange. I get that constantly. I walk into a room and people defer to me unconsciously, bending their energy my way. It is different for submissives. Your energy is latent and needing release, and it flows in the presence of a Dominant.

Empress: Otherwise, it is dammed up.

Cop: im just feeling your so superior to me

Empress: That is because you want to roll onto your back and show me your belly. “I’m no threat to you, please pay attention to me” — its something a lot of mammals do, but we are most familiar with it in dogs.

Empress: Your desire to please and your desire for my attention to your energy needs makes you feel inferior. I do not see it in terms of surperiority or inferiority, normally.

Empress: I see it as yin and yang. You know the symbol of which I am speaking?

Cop: i do

Empress: Two tear-drop shapes forming a circle. And within each teardrop a smaller circle of opposite colour. Dominants are those circles. Submissives are the teardrops. And together, we form a cohesive whole. It is the natural order of things.

Cop: im facinated by you, and becoming more and more submissive as you speak Mistress

Empress: I have that effect on people.

Cop: id like to be owned

Empress: *grin* You fantasize about being owned and what you think it entails. I think you should learn more before you choose that for yourself.

Cop: it’s what i want

Empress: Subs are terribly impulsive. They see something they want, they buy it. They think they want something, they do it. And then their balls are in a vise and they are kneeling on rice grains for an hour asking themselves WHAT THE FUCK WAS I THINKING?

Empress: *laugh*

Cop: if you were above me i wouldn’t be concerned

Empress: Then perhaps you really are a slave. But before you can be certain, I think you need a broader experience with submission.

Cop: i know i am one. i just know

Empress: Ah, but that has yet to be empirically proven. And Dominants, real ones, don’t just say … “Oh you want to be my slave? You want to wear my collar? Sure hon! Walk this way!”

Cop: ok. fair enough

Empress: It is not a commitment to be taken lightly. Dominants who are ethical recognize their social responsibilities and take care. There are ethics to power exchange, and it is the Dominant’s responsibility to uphold them.

Cop: i know that, but i just feel its where i should be

Empress: Quite likely that is true. And you should follow that intuition. That gut feeling. But don’t lose your head Blow your wad, certainly, but don’t lose your head.

Cop: im not, i thought you would be good to start me off, but the feeling of having someone who gives me orders is really important to me

Empress: There is sexual submission, which is situational, and there is lifestyle submission, which is more pervasive and not something to be entered into lightly.

Empress: If you want me to give you orders, call me. If you want to chat about your desire to submit, then chat.

Empress: You get to choose what comes next. Subs have the power. Doms direct it. If it was the other way around, Dominants would be zombies from sheer exhaustion

Cop: I bet

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