I had an interesting conversation with a submissive the other day. He feels that he has a small penis that is inadequate to the task of giving a woman real pleasure during intercourse, so he likes to be dominated, made to serve, made to service and worship a woman orally. After he has pleased a woman, he likes to kneel before her and stroke himself off while she watches and makes somewhat humiliating comments on his masturbation technique: thumb and two fingers because his cocklet is so small it gets lost in his hand.
I asked him of he’d ever had a strap-on used on him, if he’d ever been taken like a woman. He said no, that he wasn’t sure he could take the humilation of it. That comment brought me up short. It is interesting how such a simple phrase is a doorway into the psyche. Here was a man who ‘knew’ he was inadequately equipped to fuck a woman and so relished the humiliation of having is small penis mocked and relegated to servicing her orally. But at the same time, he thought that being fucked himself would be more humiliation than he could take. I found myself wondering if he thought women found penetration humiliating, or if, sometime in his past, he’d felt powerful in ‘humiliating’ women with the act of penetration.
I told him that submitting to a strap-on FemDom could be humiliating for some, yes, if that is what they wanted to feel–the humiliation of beastial violation. I also told him that it could be a deeply spiritual experience, the feeling of submitting, of opening, of welcoming that intrusion that could split a person open on multiple levels and leave them changed: softer, vulnerable, encompassing.
I told him that I like to take a man on his back because it is more intimate, because I want to watch his face. I watch the play of emotions, of pleasure and pain, of wonder. I like to witness that moment of surrender that is so much deeper than submission, and to see the realization dawn of what it is like to be a woman, cherished and cherishing, loved and loving, open, receptive, welcoming, and orgasmic. There is nothing like having someone over you, on you, in you, and I put my own intimate knowledge of that powerful exchange to good use on men and woman alike.
Yes, some see a strap-on as a tool of pain and humiliation. I see it as a tool for opening people to the possibilities within them. The actual experience of the submissive when being pegged is dependent upon the mid-set of both the sub himself, and the intention of the FemDom. I recommend that every man try it at least twice.
Empress Pamela * (800) 601-6975 * Empress.Pamela@yahoo.com
